Update...

I would like to thank everyone who posted a comment on this blog, tweeted me or posted a comment on my instagram offering advice! This situation STILL makes me BEYOND angry, rests SO heavy on my heart and I have had SO many moments just thinking and praying about it. 

Some people may think that I am wasting time thinking about this situation, some have even told me it isn't my responsibility or that I shouldn't worry about it and mind my own business.

I am sorry, but I can not just "mind my own business" & as a MOTHER I do feel that it is my responsibility! My very close friend Sarah brought up that when you become a mama, everything is so much harder to hear when something HORRIBLE is being done to a child! I couldn't agree more. I think whether you are a mama or not, it is tough to hear about situations involving a child that are harmful but I think the WORST is when it is preventable.

A couple of you asked how close I am with this woman. I am not close with her at all, barely acquaintances.  Which was why I asked you all for advice on what you would do. Some of your comments made me tear up and every single comment I AGREED with!! (Does that ever happen?!) If this girl was a close friend or family member I would have NO problem speaking my piece and offering unwanted advice but since this situation is MUCH different I wasn't sure what to do.

I have decided after MUCH thinking and speaking to those closest to me, I will not be saying anything DIRECTLY to her. I WILL be contacting CPS though. My dad works for the state of MI and spoke with a CPS worker for me to find out what can be done. Unfortunately (in our state) nothing can be done until the child is born. I have the phone number and plan to call to inform them of what I know so this baby can be tested in the hospital. Hopefully CPS will keep an eye on this baby. I've heard stories that sometimes children get lost in the shuffle.

From some of your comments and from some research online, I read that this late in the pregnancy it could actually HARM the baby more if she were to stop doing all of these harmful activities because the baby will have withdrawals. I am not sure if this is true? Are there any medical professionals who have experience or knowledge or this? 

Anyway, my heart still breaks for this baby. I have been thinking about this NON-stop and just don't know how someone, especially a mother, could treat their child, born or unborn, in such a disrespectful way?! A lot of you pointed out that maybe once the baby is born, she will change, since motherhood does change a lot of women. I TRUELY hope so! I wish SO much for this to be true, but in my heart, I just don't know. I like to see the good in people, I am a very positive person, but I just don't know in this case.

There are so many women and couples, some of you posted, that would LOVE to have a baby and you can't. My heart aches for you. I have guilt just writing about someone who treats their unborn in this way, knowing how much you would treasure that unborn baby!

Anyway, I just wanted to post a little update on what I have been thinking and my decision. Ever since I have found out about this precious baby, I have been praying for him. I ask that you do the same. We don't choose our parents but I do believe everyone has a journey and a purpose. 

I hope this story ends up with a happily ever after...